A North Arlington family that lost a loved one while he served his country is wondering if he got the full respect that he deserved. The deaths of New Jersey natives Montes de Oca, a Marine, and of Whitney Houston have been a flashpoint in the debate over when flags should be lowered and for whom. Gov. Chris Christie sparked fierce debate when he ordered flags around the state lowered to honor Houston, who battled drug and alcohol addiction before her death. Christie later ordered flags lowered for de Oca as well.

Montes De Oca's mother, Miriam Moreta, says the move to lower the flag for Houston was not one that she accepts. The Marine's older brother, Sandro Moreta, adds that the family thanks the community for its support.

In the weeks following the Marine and the singer's deaths, News 12 New Jersey has received thousands of comments on our Facebook page regarding the issue.

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